I love a good YA read — especially a good ROMANTIC read. I love a YA book that makes me feel all the butterflies I’ve felt in my stomach for some of my first loves — and still feel for my husband these days.
BUT when I think of romance in YA books, I sometimes don’t think about the boy or the girl, or the first kiss, or the awkwardness — instead, I think about the insta-love and the all-encompassing type of love such young people are feeling.
Insta-Love & All Encompassing Love
LOTS of people have griped about insta-love in YA books. While I do agree that I may had felt infatuated with someone when I was that young, I have to admit that it just doesn’t seem normal. Are books teaching kids that it’s okay to just immediately dive head first into love and to want to give EVERYTHING to someone so soon? To think that the first love of your life is your soul mate?
Yes, I know that this DOES happen, but it seems like it happens in LOTS of YA books. Is it a realistic thing that should be written about often?
Another romance thing I see in YA books is the love triangle. Now, don’t get me wrong — I’m SURE a love triangle has happened at some point for some people, but it seems like it happens in MOST YA books nowadays. I don’t think I ever encountered a love triangle when I was growing up, but it feels like YA books show young people that a love triangle is the norm. Would it be wrong, then, if you’re NOT part of a love triangle? I mean, some people just can’t find that ONE person until out of high school — would books with love triangles make them feel different because they haven’t been able to find at least ONE love?
Love triangles happen way too often in books, in my opinion, and if I don’t think of myself, I really haven’t encountered that many youths who are constantly part of one. Is a love triangle a realistic thing? Or can it be something that we can do without in most books? Is it just a tension creator?
When it comes down to it, I’m sure that everyone is picky about the romance in their books and maybe I wouldn’t gripe about it as much if I were talking about an adult read. That might make me seem judgemental and biased, but insta-love, all encompassing love, and love triangles just doesn’t seem to be that realistic to me when I think about YA books.
For me, I much prefer a slow build kind of love in my YA romance — something that’s more, and here’s that word again, realistic. A love where people can get to know each other first, maybe they knew each other all along but never saw each other in that way, or maybe they’re complete opposites and forced into a situation that makes them get to know one another better. Either way, it just seems way more … true to life.
What do you think of these different kinds of love in YA books? What kind of depiction of love do you prefer to see?