What I’ve Learned Reading My TBR

One of the things I’ve loved about my reading this year is that I’ve been reading a LOT of books from my TBR pile. I know we all have a TBR pile, but for me, when I say my TBR, I mean all the books that I’ve bought previously to this year. I’ve gone through two big book culls and have gotten rid of hundreds of books (mostly donated to libraries and the local jail) but the ones that are still in a pile by my shelves (because no book goes on the shelf unless it’s read) are the ones that I’ve deemed best to keep. These are the books that I tell myself, again and again, that I’m going to read.

So this year I’ve been trying to actually READ those books. It’s so easy to BUY books, but it’s harder to keep up with reading what I’ve bought, and maintaining the excitement about a purchase. Ultimately, my reading goal for the end of the year is to have a reasonable-sized pile of books that doesn’t overwhelm me. Next year, I’d like to be able to buy books that interest me, READ THEM, and then shelve them, but keep my pile of unread books to maybe 30-40. That would be a HUGE thing for me but we’ll see … I also LOVE buying books. 

I’ve learned so much this year when it comes to my TBR that I thought it’d be fun to reflect on everything I’ve learned, from buying books to reading books, and everything in between.

Thoughts On Buying Books

1. I had to remember: the excitement doesn’t last. 

It’s so easy to buy a book. I mean, OBVIOUSLY. But when you’re on social media a lot, checking out book blogs and BookTube, you see a LOT of recommendations, a lot of excitement. When you see someone else who’s super excited about a book, your excitement is piqued. When you see another person or two raving about a book with excitement, chances are, if you’re like me, you’re going to buy that book when you see it on the shelf at the bookstore. I’ve noticed that I’ve done this with a few books this year and now that some of these books have sat in a pile for a few months, the excitement has died down. It’s almost like a high, buying a book that someone else loved, knowing that I’ll love it. But then I actually have to READ IT and when I have over a hundred books to read already, not to mention access to thousands at the library, if I don’t get to it right away, the excitement fades and it might seem like a chore to get to that book.

2. I don’t need to buy that book new. 

As we’re heading into the last quarter of the year, I’m trying to remind myself that I have a reading pile of nearly 150 books and that I want to read them before buying anything new. The problem is there’s that Shiny New Book on the shelf at the bookstore and I want to buy it. I have to remember that that book could also show up at a book sale later in the year or early next year, or that the paperback will come out and be cheaper than the hardback. Do I really need to buy that book right away? If I know I’m going to buy it and not get to it in months, WHY BUY IT RIGHT NOW? This is a hard one for me because I love a Shiny New Book and love adding to my pile. But what I’m trying to teach myself is to maybe make a wishlist online and see in a few months if I still want that book. ESPECIALLY if it’s not an auto-buy author.

3. Don’t rely on reviews! 

I am TERRIBLE for this. But I’ve bought a lot of books in the past and have read raving reviews on Amazon, only to realize the book sucks, or I’ll read reviews on Goodreads and not buy the book because the reviews weren’t great. Prior to this, I’d just BUY THE DAMN BOOK. I think this is one of the reasons I’d like to get my TBR down, so that I can just browse bookstores – used or new – and just buy what interests me. I feel like I’ve relied too much on reading what other people have thought of a book when I should just buy what looks good. It’s what I did before the internet!

Thoughts On Reading Books

4. Don’t read the synopsis – just dive in! 

When I go into reading these books that have been on my shelves (or, floor) for anywhere from one month to 8 years, I’ve learned to just START READING THE BOOK. Don’t read the synopsis and see what it’s about, just dive in. I find that if I read the synopsis I’m more likely to procrastinate and maybe put it down again, whereas if I just start reading, I’m more likely to just get sucked in. In the same sense:

5. Don’t read reviews before reading the book! 

I like to mark on Goodreads when I start reading a book so I know how long it took me to read, but what I’ve learned is to NOT scroll past where I mark a book as ‘currently reading’ and see what my fellow readers thought of the book I’m about to read. If someone loved it, then I might get my hopes up, or if they hated it, I might lean towards hating it as I read when if I had gone in without reading any reviews, I might have loved it. I can’t seem to escape the overall rating of a book on Goodreads, but I just want to steer clear of what others have to say.

6. Take advantage of audiobooks! 

When you have a TBR pile that’s in the hundreds, it’ll take some time to read everything. What can help, though, is audiobooks! I’m not saying you need to actually BUY the audiobook for a physical book you already own, but check and see if your library has the audiobook. Audiobooks are great to listen to when you can’t actually read a book. I particularly love listening to books of short stories on audiobook because it’s easy to just take it in a piece at a time. Doing the dishes? Listen to one story. Watering the garden? Listen to another. If you commute a lot, then download the audiobook of a book you’ve owned for ages and listen over the week as you drive. If you get even just a couple audiobooks in during a month, that’s still 2 books off your TBR.

7. Read multiple books at a time. I learned I can do it! 

The majority of the time, I have at least 2 books on the go. Sometimes I have 6 on the go. I LOVE reading multiple books and I find that it helps keep my interest piqued when reading. I could read one book in a couple days, but I’m not taking advantage of all the time I can be reading. What I usually do it figure out how much time I can read. If I have three hours to read during the day, I’ll read three books, one hour at a time for each. When I’m having a reading month (which is what I’ll be doing for a few months before the end of the year), I’ll get up early in the morning to read, then read when the kids nap and have quiet time, and read again before bed. That’s at least 5 hours of reading time I can get in a day. I read pretty fast and can usually read 100 pages in an hour, so if I’m reading 5 books, and I try really hard I can get those books read in 3-4 days. And when I finish one book, I’ll start another one. If I always have a book on the go, chances are I won’t go through a reading slump because there’s no time to be spent in between books.

How do you read multiple books at a time?

  • Pick different genres. Currently I have three books on the go, one is a historical fiction during wartime, another is a contemporary fiction, and another is a non-fiction.
  • Pick different ways to read. I usually like to have a book on my ereader, a physical book, and an audiobook on the go. These days I’ll have a few physical books, an audiobook or two (one might be short stories and another a novel), and maybe one on my ereader.
  • Schedule your reading. For me, I like to try and read either 33% of a book in a day, or 25% if it’s a longer book. I’ll also try to reach certain marks in a book each day – if a book is broken into parts, maybe I’ll read a part a day, or if I got to 33% of a book one day, I’ll aim for either 50% or 66% the next day. I’m weird like that.
  • Make sure you’re reading each book a little each day. If you put that book off for a few days to read others, your interest will wain. Even if you just read it for a half hour, get that reading in!
  • Always take a book with you! Or two! Even if I’m driving the kids to school or we’re just running to the store, I’ll take a book. You never know what’s going to happen where you might need a book.

For me, also, I like to have my “8:30 book” for days where I’m going up to shower and go to bed early after the kids go to bed. This happens a lot when my husband is watching sports and I just don’t care to watch. The kids are in bed by 7:30 and then I take a shower and read my “8:30 book” – a book I’ll read until 8:30. I’m up really early in the morning so I might reserve a non-fiction book for that time, or somethings a little heavier, then at 8:30 I go to bed and read something I’m really enjoying, or maybe start a new fun book until I fall asleep. That way I’m still getting my reading of a couple books in.

Final Thoughts

8. I’m not going to beat myself up if I can’t get the TBR down.

Like I’ve said, I’ve gone through two big book culls. I’ve bought books like CRAZY in the past. I felt that, as a book blogger, I had to buy lots of books. But now, while I love having lots of books in my library, I’ve realized that if I can’t keep up, maybe I should slow down with buying. I’ve also told myself that I should NOT buy books until Christmas, hopefully when my TBR is around 50, BUT if I buy a book or two (or more) before that, I’m not going to beat myself up. Reading should be fun and not a chore so if you want to buy and read something new, do that! Just try to work in an old book here and there. Really, I don’t think anyone’s TBR will ever be at zero, so don’t kill yourself trying to get there.

9. Don’t be afraid to GET RID OF THE BOOK.

If you start reading a book that you’ve had on your TBR from before you can remember and start reading it but you’re not enjoying it, don’t keep reading it! Like I said, life’s too short to read something that you’re not enjoying and if you honestly think you’re not going to enjoy that book you were so excited to buy 5 years ago, put it in a donate pile. I have a donate box and put books I don’t think I’ll read in it. If I start reading something and it sucks, I put it in the box. I keep the box for a while just in case I change my mind, but I am not afraid to get rid of a book!

10. Have fun reading my TBR! 

One thing I’ve loved about reading my TBR is finding books that were genuinely amazing, books that had me wondering why the heck I hadn’t read them sooner. I’ve also had books I haven’t really enjoyed. But the fun in reading these old books is that I can see why I bought them and why I saved them for so long. And since I don’t put books on my shelves that haven’t been read, it’s so much fun to read something and then put it on the damn shelf! My TBR piles are getting smaller and smaller and I’m loving it. I’m feeling accomplished and having fun reading and that’s what matters.

This year has been a lot of fun, reading-wise, and I honestly don’t think that I’ll keep up my reading pace next year but that’s okay with me. It’s been fun to push myself to read more and to get my TBR down and to read those books that have been on my shelf forever. I feel like I’ve learned my lesson when it comes to buying and overbuying books and I’m eager to see what 2018 brings!


{Let’s Talk About Books} Is it you? Is it me? Is it the timing?

I don’t do a lot of bookish discussions on the blog these days, so when I felt completely inspired to write a short discussion after visiting Trish’s blog, I decided to jump at it.

Really, it’s not much of a “discussion” post, but more of some bookish thoughts …

So, Trish had a blog post about books she’d like to revisit. One of them was The History of Love by Nicole Krauss. I see this book on so many lists recommending good books. I mean, it’s got to be good, right? I’ve read it, but I have no idea since I’m a forgetful person and can never remember much of a book I read last month, let alone years ago.

But is it really my memory? Did I really love the book? Did I hate it?

I’m wondering if this is one of those books that I would read today and completely fall in love with and never forget. You know those books. They tear at your heart strings and the instant you finish the last page, you want to go right back to the beginning and experience all the feelings over again. I have so many of those books in my life now and if you asked me about them, I could tell you all about them.

So what if it wasn’t just a case of me forgetting about the book, but me just not reading it at the right time?

what makes a book good

Years ago, I had high aspirations to read perfect books. I would read these books that everyone loved and I wouldn’t get them, or I’d think they were just okay, or maybe I would hate them. But part of me now thinks that it was a timing thing. Like maybe I wasn’t supposed to read that book at that time because I wouldn’t appreciate it, because I wouldn’t love it.

Can we time our reading of books? Can we go back and read a book all over again and feel the feelings we were supposed to have in the first place without an overwhelming feeling of deja vu? Could there be a reason behind why I start a book constantly and always put it down, eventually putting it back on the shelf partially read … maybe it’s my subconscious telling me that no, now is not the right time to read this book.

You’re not ready.

Wouldn’t it be great to have a little voice in your head that warned you of certain books, those books that your subconscious knows you’ll love 5 years down the road, so back away now and just leave it on the shelf before you ruin what should be an epic moment later in life?

I know I write reviews and thoughts on the blog, but part of me wishes that I’ve been documenting what I’ve been reading for the past 10 years, with a brief note next to the title saying loved it or it was okay or I didn’t get it. Then, a few years down the road, I could’ve gone back to that list with a new understanding and tried again and maybe I would’ve found that next amazing read.

Is it too late to start?

What are your thoughts on the timing of books? Do you think that there are certain books that you’ve read in the past that might have been better read later in life? Do you think you can go back to that book and have the feelings you should have had?


{Discussion} How to Move Forwards And Backwards at the Same Time?


This past July, I decided to go back to basics with the blog.

Waaaaay back to basics.

Like, 3 posts a week, if that. You know, if I feel like it. No biggie. No pressure.

While my brain can wrap itself around this most of the time — no thinking about what to write, no pressure to read ALL THE BOOKS, no worrying about stats and followers, etc. — there’s a small part of the time where I still feel like things aren’t complete.

I should write something! What should I write? 

I want to read ALL THE BOOK! How do I find the time to read all the books?!?

Should I be promoting the blog more? Stats are way down? Does it matter? 

I know I write a post like this once every 10.2 seconds — AND it’s only been 3.5 months — but is there anyone else out there who cut way back in blogging and still found it satisfying? To me, I’d say it’s still satisfying in a sense, but I feel like something is missing.

MAYBE it’s a new parent thing, but seriously, how do people find time to read and comment on blogs when they can’t be on a computer all the time? I really don’t want to open up my Bloglovin’ blog roll, because I’m sure it’s a scary, scary thing. AND I don’t want to be on the computer all the time around the little one. BUT I don’t want to feel so far out of the blogging community like I already am.

It’s definitely been nice to go back a step and not be as picky as I was with books. I’m buying what looks good, reading what looks good … maybe not reading as much as I want to right now, but I’m reading, which is what matters.

MAYBE it’s a balance thing? How do I balance child, husband, house, work, reading, blogging, and everything else in between? How do I get that passion back about blogging? I feel like it’s there, but it’s hidden somewhere in the back of my brain. Is the problem time? Lack of passion? WHAT IS IT?

Am I just stubborn and not wanting to realize that this is just what happens when you become a parent? Because I SO don’t want that to be the case. I’m sure I have the time (how many TV shows have I watched recently again??), I just have a hard time working this into my time. I’m one of those DO ALL THE THINGS! kind of people, so I start blogging, I must do ONLY blogging. I start working on tea stuff, I must ONLY work on tea stuff. Housework? You got it … ONLY housework.

It’s exhausting.

If anyone has any suggestions as to how I can get back my passion for blogging and maybe get back into what’s going on in the community, I will gladly listen! Maybe it’s all part of this evolution thing the blog has been going through, but I need some reassurance.