{Let’s Talk About Books} Is it you? Is it me? Is it the timing?

I don’t do a lot of bookish discussions on the blog these days, so when I felt completely inspired to write a short discussion after visiting Trish’s blog, I decided to jump at it.

Really, it’s not much of a “discussion” post, but more of some bookish thoughts …

So, Trish had a blog post about books she’d like to revisit. One of them was The History of Love by Nicole Krauss. I see this book on so many lists recommending good books. I mean, it’s got to be good, right? I’ve read it, but I have no idea since I’m a forgetful person and can never remember much of a book I read last month, let alone years ago.

But is it really my memory? Did I really love the book? Did I hate it?

I’m wondering if this is one of those books that I would read today and completely fall in love with and never forget. You know those books. They tear at your heart strings and the instant you finish the last page, you want to go right back to the beginning and experience all the feelings over again. I have so many of those books in my life now and if you asked me about them, I could tell you all about them.

So what if it wasn’t just a case of me forgetting about the book, but me just not reading it at the right time?

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Years ago, I had high aspirations to read perfect books. I would read these books that everyone loved and I wouldn’t get them, or I’d think they were just okay, or maybe I would hate them. But part of me now thinks that it was a timing thing. Like maybe I wasn’t supposed to read that book at that time because I wouldn’t appreciate it, because I wouldn’t love it.

Can we time our reading of books? Can we go back and read a book all over again and feel the feelings we were supposed to have in the first place without an overwhelming feeling of deja vu? Could there be a reason behind why I start a book constantly and always put it down, eventually putting it back on the shelf partially read … maybe it’s my subconscious telling me that no, now is not the right time to read this book.

You’re not ready.

Wouldn’t it be great to have a little voice in your head that warned you of certain books, those books that your subconscious knows you’ll love 5 years down the road, so back away now and just leave it on the shelf before you ruin what should be an epic moment later in life?

I know I write reviews and thoughts on the blog, but part of me wishes that I’ve been documenting what I’ve been reading for the past 10 years, with a brief note next to the title saying loved it or it was okay or I didn’t get it. Then, a few years down the road, I could’ve gone back to that list with a new understanding and tried again and maybe I would’ve found that next amazing read.

Is it too late to start?

What are your thoughts on the timing of books? Do you think that there are certain books that you’ve read in the past that might have been better read later in life? Do you think you can go back to that book and have the feelings you should have had?

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{Discussion} How to Move Forwards And Backwards at the Same Time?

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This past July, I decided to go back to basics with the blog.

Waaaaay back to basics.

Like, 3 posts a week, if that. You know, if I feel like it. No biggie. No pressure.

While my brain can wrap itself around this most of the time — no thinking about what to write, no pressure to read ALL THE BOOKS, no worrying about stats and followers, etc. — there’s a small part of the time where I still feel like things aren’t complete.

I should write something! What should I write? 

I want to read ALL THE BOOK! How do I find the time to read all the books?!?

Should I be promoting the blog more? Stats are way down? Does it matter? 

I know I write a post like this once every 10.2 seconds — AND it’s only been 3.5 months — but is there anyone else out there who cut way back in blogging and still found it satisfying? To me, I’d say it’s still satisfying in a sense, but I feel like something is missing.

MAYBE it’s a new parent thing, but seriously, how do people find time to read and comment on blogs when they can’t be on a computer all the time? I really don’t want to open up my Bloglovin’ blog roll, because I’m sure it’s a scary, scary thing. AND I don’t want to be on the computer all the time around the little one. BUT I don’t want to feel so far out of the blogging community like I already am.

It’s definitely been nice to go back a step and not be as picky as I was with books. I’m buying what looks good, reading what looks good … maybe not reading as much as I want to right now, but I’m reading, which is what matters.

MAYBE it’s a balance thing? How do I balance child, husband, house, work, reading, blogging, and everything else in between? How do I get that passion back about blogging? I feel like it’s there, but it’s hidden somewhere in the back of my brain. Is the problem time? Lack of passion? WHAT IS IT?

Am I just stubborn and not wanting to realize that this is just what happens when you become a parent? Because I SO don’t want that to be the case. I’m sure I have the time (how many TV shows have I watched recently again??), I just have a hard time working this into my time. I’m one of those DO ALL THE THINGS! kind of people, so I start blogging, I must do ONLY blogging. I start working on tea stuff, I must ONLY work on tea stuff. Housework? You got it … ONLY housework.

It’s exhausting.

If anyone has any suggestions as to how I can get back my passion for blogging and maybe get back into what’s going on in the community, I will gladly listen! Maybe it’s all part of this evolution thing the blog has been going through, but I need some reassurance.

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What ever happened to originality in book blogging?

I was planning on writing a book review today, since I’ve been flying through the review books, but the book I finished this morning was that good to warrant a review here. It did teach me a new way to curse — God’s balls! — but that’s about it. Sweet story, not worth the amount of thought for a review.

SO I figured I’d talk about something I saw on Twitter the other day. I can’t remember who had posted it, but it was something along the lines of WordPress deleting blogs that were just posting book blasts, blitzes, cover reveals, giveaways, etc. and it got me thinking:

What ever happened to originality in book blogging? 

When I first started blogging 5 years ago, there were very few book blogs I could find. Mostly they dealt with reviews, so that’s how I started, writing up reviews of the books I had read. Not so much “reviews” but my general thoughts — spoilers included — of the books I was reading. Then I started to get more creative with the blog and wrote up discussions, personal posts, songs about books and so on.

These days, there have been so many blogs that I wanted to follow, so many bloggers I wanted to get to know, but then I realize all they post are promotional posts. I mean, there’s nothing wrong with a promotional post, really. I’ve done them once in a while, but I try to stick to things like cover reveals for books I’m really, really excited for, or writing up a post about my favourite books or series. I do get review books from publishers, but not in the double digits each month like other book bloggers might.

I wonder when book blogging turned into a promotional tool. I’ve always been of the thought that to be a book blogger means you share your love of books. If you get review books from publishers, you share your thoughts — good or bad — of those books. Personally, I love going to a blog where there’s MORE than just reviews, more than just promo posts. To me, seeing the same promo posts on each and every blog gets tiring. Heck, even seeing the same review of a book on all the blogs is tiring (one reason I tend to stray from posting around release dates — that, and sheer laziness).

There are a few blogs out there that actually think outside of the box when it comes to posting and I love that. Share your bookish stories in real life, or make a list of books you’d take with you on a desert island, or have a discussion on why you never lend out your books or what makes you a crazy book person. Be unique and just write something outside of the norm. I swear, your readers will thank you because if they’re like me, they want to hear the voice of the person behind the blog, not just see tons of posts that they will eventually just gloss over.

These days, there are hundreds upon hundreds of book blogs and a good portion of them do tons of promo posts. Is there a reason for this? Have we lost our ability to be creative when it comes to writing a blog post? Have we forgotten what blogging is all about? 

I decided to look up the definition of blogging and found this:

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See how it says “new material” or to “write about” something in a blog? It’s not just about pasting generic posts that will be the same on every other blog. If your reason to blog is to just post these things so that you get free stuff from publishers, maybe you should rethink your ideas. Make your blog stand out and write your blog for YOU. When you look back at all the time you spent blogging, will you be happy with it? Will it document that time of your life how you want it to? 

I think this is one of the reasons I stepped back from what I had previously been doing when it came to blogging. I wasn’t being unique. I wasn’t letting myself tell stories about myself before book reviews anymore and I wasn’t letting myself write posts at the spur of the moment anymore. It became a job to me where I thought about the reader first and me second. While readers are indeed awesome — and I thank every single one of you who reads this blog and have read this far — I have to think of me first. These days, having a family and a house and other priorities to take care of, I want to make my blogging time matter, whether I’m writing a review, or a discussion, or sharing a song with my readers.

In the end, shouldn’t we be doing things that make us happy? Shouldn’t we be letting our creative wings fly and let our blog be a reflection of our life, rather than a dumping pot for promotional vomit? 

I can only hope that more book bloggers start to be more creative and unique in their posts — it makes me happy as a blogger to see that kind of material!

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